Does She Love Me? 31 Unmistakable Signs She Loves You Deeply

By Sandra Aninwaeze Updated on: March 17, 2025 Fact Checked by Emily Thompson

You’ve fallen in love with her and are wondering if she’s feeling the same way. If you’re wondering how to tell if a girl likes you, this article will put you in the right direction. Here are 31 surefire signs she loves you!

Why Do Women Hide Their Feelings?

Understanding the motivation behind her actions will help you navigate the friendship or relationship. Most women have their guard up when it comes to matters of love, with valid reasons, including:  

1. Fear of Rejection: Women are often afraid and ashamed to admit their feelings. She may think you don’t love her too, and you might reject her. To avoid getting hurt, she keeps her feelings hidden.
2. She Has Been Hurt Before: Maybe her ex didn’t treat her right, and she’s afraid every other guy would do the same. You have to let her know you’re different by showing her continuous love and affection, especially if you haven’t said the words yet.
3. She’s Afraid You’ll Use Her: Some men only keep women around for sex, even when the lady wants more and the guy is aware of her true feelings. To prevent this from happening, a woman may hide her feelings for you because she thinks you’ll only use the knowledge to manipulate her to meet your sexual needs.
4. Fear of Ruining the Friendship: If you’ve been friends for a long time, she may hide her feelings because she doesn’t want to lose her friend and ruin the long-term friendship.
5. She Thinks She’s Not Good Enough for You: Maybe she already knows your ideal type and thinks she doesn’t fit into that description. You can get her to open up by frequently complimenting her appearance and personality.
6. She Is Dealing with Loss or Grief: If she has just lost a loved one recently, she might be having a hard time dealing with grief, so she pushes all her feelings to the side. We advise that you help her process her grief and give her time to heal.
7. She Doesn’t Feel Loved: You’re not showing her affection or any sign that you love her. Ensure that you make her feel loved and appreciated so she feels safe to open up about her feelings.

31 Surefire Signs a Girl Loves You

1. She Loves Being Around You

She enjoys your company and feels free around you. If a girl is really into you, she’ll always want to be around you, whether it’s to have deep conversations or talk about trivial topics like how your day went.

You will notice that she regularly invites you to her house or suggests you do an activity together or play fun games. If she doesn’t have feelings for you, she won’t want to spend so much time with you or have you in her space.

2. She Checks up on You

Often texting to know how your day went and inquiring about your general well-being shows that she cares a lot about you, and not just in a friendly way.

Most women don’t bother to invest time in men they don’t care about. So, if she takes the time to check up on you regularly, this is one of the unmistakable signs she loves you!

3. She Tries to Make You Happy

Humans generally consider their happiness first. However, people who are in love would prioritize the other person’s happiness as well. If you notice she does things to put a smile on your face, it’s a surefire sign that she’s in love with you!

4. She Can’t Keep Her Hands off You

A woman who has feelings for you would always initiate physical contact, sometimes subconsciously. She may want to hug you, hold your hand, and touch your hair or face every chance she gets.

5. She Stares at You a lot

When you’ve caught her staring at you on several occasions, chances are that she has strong feelings for you. A woman in love will maintain eye contact while talking to you to show that you have her full attention.

6. She Does Sweet Little Things for You

It’s the little things that matter, they say. For instance, she might send cute text messages, call just to hear your voice, offer a massage, pat your shoulders when you seem stressed, or get you a gift box for no particular reason.

Women have different ways of communicating their affection, but if you stay attentive, you’ll see the small things they do for the men they’re into. So, if your love interest has done these or similar sweet things for you, it’s one of the obvious signs she loves you.

7. She Makes Time for You

If she plans quality time with you, especially if she has a busy schedule, it’s a strong indicator that she loves you. This can take place in various forms, but you’ll clearly see she tries to include you in her life:

• Inviting you to go shopping
• Asking to attend a wedding with her
• Grabbing lunch between meetings
• Exercising together over the weekend
• Willing to help you with tasks or bring dinner when you’re working late

8. She Remembers Details About You

She remembers events such as birthdays or even little details that you wouldn’t expect anyone to remember. For example, you may have mentioned your favorite color is blue, and this motivates her to often buy you items in that color.

9. She Values Your Opinion

If she seeks your advice regularly, it’s because she values your input, since she values the person offering it. Valuing your opinions is a strong indicator that she respects but also loves you.

10. Her Friends and Family Know You

Your name is always on her lips, singing your praises. If she creates opportunities to introduce you to her friends and family, then she wants to show you off.

For women, these actions are often deeply emotional. They demonstrate that she’s genuinely interested in you and sees you as someone worth taking seriously. Most women won’t introduce a guy to their family or friends unless they envision a long-term relationship with him.

11. She Would like to Know Your Family and Friends

If she wants a serious relationship, she’ll be eager to get to know people who are dear to you. You will notice that she makes an effort to build a relationship with your friends and family because she wants to be in your life for a long time.

12. She’s Honest with You

Ladies in love will be open to you and always be so honest that you find her reliable and trustworthy. To safeguard the relationship, she will never make you doubt her words or feelings for you. She’ll share details with you that she’s never told anyone, like opening up about her past.

13. She Respects You

She will place you in high esteem, value your thoughts, and consider your feelings. A woman who loves you will also respect your boundaries. It’s not always easy to earn a woman’s respect, so if it’s given, it reflects her love for you.

14. She Thinks You Are Perfect

No one is perfect. But if she sees you as perfect for her despite your flaws, she’s in love with you. She may have realized your flaws but doesn’t judge you for it, and that’s a surefire sign she loves you!

15. She Tries Her Best To Look Good for You

Women love looking good for the men they’re in love with. If she tries her best to look stunning, it’s a huge sign she’s in love with you and wants you to notice and compliment her. She would put in extra effort in picking her outfits, try out a new hairstyle, and even ask you what clothing you prefer her to wear.

16. She’s Willing To Work on Her Flaws

If a woman loves you, she will work on any of her flaws that could affect the relationship. This can take place in many ways:

• Try to improve herself with self-help books
• Attend seminars
• Ask you what you would change in your relationship
• Seek professional help when necessary

17. She Makes Compromises

If a girl is in love with you and truly cares about you, she will compromise for you. For example, if she’s a very private person, she’ll try to be more open. She might also give up her need to be right to prevent further arguments.

18. She’s There in Difficult Times

A woman who loves you will stick with you through difficult times. If she stands by you during your bad days and offers to share your burdens, you can rest assured that she loves you deeply.

19. She Compliments You

When she’s quick to throw in a few compliments, it’s possible she’s trying to tell you she likes you. Ladies love to compliment a man they are interested in. They want you to feel special, but they’re also testing the waters to see if you’ll return the favor, indicating you’re interested too.

20. She Motivates You

She will always motivate you to do your best in all your endeavors. A woman who genuinely loves and cares about you will push you to help achieve your goals in life. Her love motivates her to want the best for you. So, she’ll remind you that your goals are attainable, and you should stop at nothing to achieve them.

21. She Offers To Cook for You

Many believe the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, and women may test the theory. If she’s in love with you, she would want to surprise you with your favorite homemade meals. She’ll even learn new recipes and search online for inspiration to cook delicious dishes just for you.

22. She’s Your Cheerleader

A loving woman will become your biggest cheerleader and genuinely celebrate your success, whether big or small. She’ll always hype up your achievements and remind you how far you’ve come.

23. She Talks About the Future

Her conversations with you will most likely be about her future plans, and for a lady in love, they will always include you! It could be a dream vacation destination, what you could both do next summer, or even marriage and how many kids she would like to have. She sees a future with you and is more than ready to pursue it.

24. She Talks Positively About You

A woman in love will proudly brag about you to anyone willing to listen. She’ll share with her siblings, friends, and co-workers just how much she loves you and why she thinks you’re the best man in the world.

In her conversations with you, she’ll also speak positive words to you, for example:

• You can do this, I believe in you
• I’m so grateful to have you
• I admire your resilience
• I feel so safe whenever I’m with you

If there are criticisms, they will be constructive, and you won’t feel like she’s judging you.

Note that if your girlfriend always says negative things to you and compares you to every man she knows and has been with, then she doesn’t love you.

25. She Shares Financial Responsibilities with You

A woman who loves you won’t hesitate to share financial responsibilities. Depending on your income, you may both feel like sharing expenses 50/50. Alternatively, if you earn more, she may contribute by covering certain bills or handling grocery shopping whenever possible. A loving woman won’t expect you to take on all the financial burdens on your own.

26. She Allows You to Have a Life Outside the Relationship

If your girlfriend loves you, she’ll support you in having a social life outside the relationship. She would not get upset when you go out with your friends, travel out of the city for work, or hang out with family members without her.

Also, she’ll allow you to explore your hobbies and interests without her. A woman who loves you will encourage you to strengthen your relationships with others because she understands it’s beneficial for your personal growth and well-being. You won’t feel like she wants you all to herself, all the time.

27. She’s Willing to Have Serious Conversations

If you have an argument, a woman who loves you will want to talk it out rather than displaying toxic habits, like giving you the silent treatment. She will communicate her worries without the situation resulting in name-calling or even violence.

28. She’s Committed to the Relationship

When a woman is in love with you, she willingly invests herself emotionally and physically, demonstrating full commitment to the relationship. She’ll expect you to go all in because she’s doing the same. A woman who puts in so much effort to make the relationship work is definitely in love with you.

29. Her Exes Are Out of the Picture

One sign of deep love and commitment is when a woman prioritizes her relationship with you over her past. If she’s in love and ready to move forward, she’ll naturally focus on building a future together rather than dwelling on past relationships.

While staying in contact with an ex isn’t always a red flag, unresolved feelings or frequent comparisons might indicate she hasn’t fully let go of her past. True love is about creating a strong, trusting bond with you—free from lingering attachments.

30. She Unknowingly Mirrors You

This is a subtle sign that she’s in love with you. You might notice that she mirrors your slang, facial expressions, fashion sense, and more. She might also begin to show an interest in the things you enjoy such as sports, gaming, the arts, or certain dress styles.

31. Your Friends Can See That She Does

If she’s truly in love with you, everyone around you will see it. People can easily confirm that two people are genuinely in love. So, if your friends are always singing her praises and commenting on how caring she is, it’s a surefire sign that she has deep feelings for you.

How Do Women Show Love? 

Women express love in different ways depending on their personality, upbringing, and preferences. Generally, there are five love languages people use to express or receive love. 

 1. Words of Affirmation

• Saying positive, affirming words
• Written or spoken words of affection 
• Compliment or verbal encouragement
• Using affectionate nicknames 
• Reminding their partner how much they love them
• Timely texting 

 2. Acts of Service

• Helping with tasks or chores to make their partner’s life easier
• Preparing meals or morning coffee
• Taking care of their sick partner

3. Physical Touch

• Hugging, holding hands, kissing, or cuddling
• Offering comforting physical gestures, like a touch on the arm or shoulder

4. Quality Time

• Spending time together through deep conversations, fun activities, or shared hobbies 
• Being present and attentive during time spent together

 5. Gift Giving

• Giving meaningful gifts
• Planning surprises, whether birthday parties or vacations 
• Remembering important days like anniversaries or birthdays.

People can also show love in other ways such as: 

• Being a good listener 
• Being a source of strength in challenging times
• Making compromises 
• Looking out for their partner’s well-being
• Creating a comfortable and loving environment
• Respecting their partner’s individuality and boundaries.
• Being honest and open

Most, if not all times, women may express their love in ways they would like to be loved. She will take your love language into account and try to love you in your language. But she’ll also try to show you how she wants you to express your love for her. 

For example, if she always gets you gifts every now and then, her love language is most likely gift-giving. We recommend reciprocating her actions. If you’re not sure about her love language, you could just ask. 

How to Ask Her If She Loves You 

1. Assess Your Bond: Examine how close your relationship is and whether it is the right time to talk about your feelings. If you’ve only been friends for a short while, we recommend waiting to really understand your feelings.
2. Pay Attention to Her Behavior: Look out for body language, actions, or words during the time you spend together to see if she feels the same way about you. 
3. Build the Right Moment: Ensure the environment is calm and there’s no noise or distractions. Do not confess your feelings during work hours or when she’s stressed, anxious, sad, etc. 
4. Express Your Feelings First: Tell her how you feel first before asking if she feels the same way. Don’t jump straight into asking what she feels for you. 
5. Watch for Non-Verbal Clues: Examine how she reacts to the news. Her body language can tell how she feels about your feelings even before she gives her response.
6. Respect Her Response: If she doesn’t feel the same way, respect that. Don’t try to force it or convince her

Experts’ Tips: What to Do Next

Before you confess your feelings to her, make sure you know what you feel – whether lust or love. If you’re confident in your feelings, pick the right moment to tell her about it. However, if you’re still scared to say how you feel, let your actions show her instead.

How to Show Her You Love Too

Sometimes, simply saying “I love you” isn’t enough. Your words have to match your actions. Here are some ways to show your crush, girlfriend, or wife just how much you love her.

1. Send Random Cute Messages: Whether it’s a cute good morning text or a random picture of what you’re doing during the day, send her messages to let her know you’re thinking of her.
2. Spend Time with Her: No matter how busy your schedule is, try to spend as much time with her as possible. If you’re busy during the week, clear your weekends to be with her.
3. Buy Her Gifts: Surprise her with the things she loves. It doesn’t always have to be the most expensive item on the shelf. Something as small as a chocolate bar or a book from her favorite author communicates true care and interest.
4. Work on Yourself: If she has complained about a certain behavior, make sure to work on it and ask her if she’s seeing change.
5. Plan a Small Trip: Surprise her with small and intimate trips, such as a drive to the beach or touring a nearby city. By showing you want to spend time with her, you’re communicating you prioritize her in your life.
6. Show Interest in Her Hobbies and Interests: Take the time to learn about the things she loves and plan a date that revolves around her interests. For instance, if she’s passionate about art, surprise her with a visit to an art gallery.

Conclusion

Some say women are complicated, but when a lady is in love, there are some glaring signs that you can’t miss.  If you met through a dating site, it might be challenging to tell if she’s really into you on the first date. However, after spending more time together, she may show some of these signs if she’s genuinely into you.

If you can’t find any of these signs in your partner or love interest, then it’s a good time to have an honest conversation, so you don’t waste each other’s time. Or it may be a good time to go in search of new love.

On the other hand, if you’re hoping she’s the one, and you’ve noticed most or all of these 31 signs, it’s time to take the next step. Consider expressing your feelings to her and letting her know how much she means to you.